Controlling Your Gayness

After church a while ago, we headed to Pho Hoa in Tomas Morato for lunch. While looking for a place to sit on, my grandmother noticed someone waving at us. It was one of my uncles who we rarely see. We chatted for a bit and then he and his kids left. When we took their table and sat down, my grandma's first words after they left were "Akala namin dati si Jerry magiging bakla." (translation: We thought Jerry would turn gay). I heard his story before; his life before he met his wife. He was moderate and restrained; "mahinhin" in Filipino. He was not your typical manly man. So I wasn't that surprised when my grandma gave that comment. But what really perked me up was when my aunt said "buti nalang napigilan niya" (translation: good thing he controlled it). I can't really say I was livid nor angry at this but I found myself defending the gay people. Being gay is not something you can control. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. It's not a choice. It's a way of life for some people. And I commend those people who embrace their gayness.

So please don't just throw in your two cents about gays or lesbians without even thinking about what you're saying. They suffer too much in society in this day and age and verbally bashing out on them, whether they hear it or not, won't help too. It's already 2012 and they're still fighting for their rights. One can control being out and proud but no one can control being what they truly are. If they are meant to be gay, they will be.